There comes a moment when the weight of who you were told to be feels heavier than the unknown of who you are becoming.
A moment when you can no longer ignore the whispers calling you home - to the truth, the fire, the vastness of your own soul.
Unbecome who you are so you can step into the version of yourself you truly desire to be.
This quiz helps you identify the patterns, beliefs, and energies shaping your path so you can break free from limitations and step into your most authentic self. Find clarity, reclaim your power, and align with the life meant for you.
here's how it works
this is a self-identifying quiz.
as you go through the questions, keep track of how many times you choose each letter (a, b, c, etc.). at the end, the letter you picked most often will reveal your result.
trust your instincts and see what speaks to you.
The Art of Unbecoming
You feel the pull, the quiet knowing that there is more waiting for you.
Your journey of unbecoming begins here.
A) I feel the fire within, but it scares me, so I put it out every time the flame reappears.
B) I feel the fire within, but I have no idea what to do with it.
C) I’m ready to unleash my wildfire!
D) I’ve already burned it all, but I’m not sure what comes next.
01. Which of these best describes you?
A) Almost always – I tend to prioritize others above myself.
B) Sometimes, but I still struggle with putting myself first.
C) Rarely – I’m getting better at setting boundaries.
D) Never – I make decisions based on what feels right for me, no matter what.
02. How often do you make decisions based on other people's needs or expectations?
A) I can’t remember the last time I truly expressed myself.
B) I do it sparingly, but often feel afraid of the reactions I’ll get.
C) I try to be authentic, but it’s a work in progress.
D) I’m actively working on owning my voice and showing up unapologetically.
03. When was the last time you truly let yourself be seen and heard?
A) Fear holds me back. I don’t even know where to start because I’m paralyzed by what could go wrong.
B) Fear is always there, but I push through it – though I still hesitate.
C) Fear doesn’t stop me anymore. I’ve learned to embrace it as a signal to move forward.
D) I’ve faced my fears head-on, but now I’m wondering what’s next.
04. What’s your relationship with fear when it comes to pursuing your dreams?
A) I ignore them, hoping they’ll just go away.
B) I avoid them and put them on the backburner, hoping one day I’ll have clarity.
C) I face them head-on, even if I don’t have all the answers.
D) I’ve already faced most of them, but I’m still figuring out my next steps.
05. How do you handle the things you’re unsure about in life?
A) It’s there, but it feels stuck or dormant. I’m not sure how to let it out.
B) It’s there, but I hold back, afraid of how powerful it could be.
C) I’m ready to ignite everything and go full force – I just need to align myself first.
D) I’ve burned through a lot, but now I’m looking for my next chapter.
06. When it comes to the fire within you, how would you describe your current energy?
A) I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing and self-doubt.
B) I want to break free but often feel overwhelmed by where to start.
C) I’m ready to burn through the old and step into something bold and new.
D) I’ve burned the bridges I needed to, but now I’m not sure how to rebuild or move forward.
07. Which statement resonates most with your current life?
A) I have a hard time setting boundaries, so I end up feeling drained and overlooked.
B) I’m getting better at setting boundaries, but it’s a constant struggle.
C) I’ve set strong boundaries that support my peace and growth.
D) I’ve set my boundaries, but now I need to figure out how to align them with my next steps.
08. What is your relationship with the concept of boundaries?
A) I feel disconnected and unsure of where I belong.
B) I feel conflicted - torn between the life I want and the expectations others have for me.
C) I feel alive, empowered, and ready to take on the world.
D) I feel like I’ve been through the emotional fire and am now in the process of rebuilding.
09. If you were to describe your emotional landscape, what would you say?
A) I have all my bridges - even the ones I don’t cross anymore. You never know when you might need them.
B)I’ve burned a few bridges but it’s hard for me to let them go.
C) Let those bridges burn baby!
10. Which of these best describes you?
A) I don't even know what I desire
B) I’ve never given myself permission to go after what I desire
C) Make sure everyone around me has everything they need before I make any moves for myself.
D) I take the babiest of baby steps
E) Go for it!
11. When it comes to going after what I truly desire, I:
A) He/She/They/*Name* would give you the shirt off their back!
B) He/She/They/*Name* is so nice!
C) You’re so brave! I could never do that!
12. Which of these phrases have people said about you?
A) When I’m the last person on earth and there is nobody else to put before my Self
B) Yesterday?!? More like YEARS AGO!
C) *unclips leash*
13. On a scale of YESTERDAY to “when I’m the last person on earth”, how badly are you ready to unleash your fierce?
if you received...
The Luna
Leading the pack, protecting those you love deeply.
In this case, you're the alpha of their world - not yours.
In a wolf pack, the alpha male and female (Luna) lead while those who are weaker and older stay in the middle. This allows for the alphas to more easily spot prey and predators, as well as protect their family, which is their primary role (aside from breeding but that’s off topic).
You take on the responsibility of the health and welfare of those around you. There is nothing wrong with that - AT ALL. One question - Where do YOU fit in? Who are YOU in this story?
If this is your quiz result.. I'm willing to bet you're not the main character or even the one making decisions for yourself.
Are you stuck in a job you hate, in a relationship that sucks? Do you let your fear and limiting beliefs, the opinions of others, or societal "norms" hold you back from going after what it is you truly desire in this lifetime? Do you even know what you truly desire in this lifetime?
You've been told your place in the world, what to think, and what and who to believe. And you've followed that to a T.
The fire within you is waiting to be stoked, but it’s been covered in layers of doubt, fear, and uncertainty. You might be holding yourself back due to a lack of clarity or the pressure of others’ expectations.
You live for other people, stay in the dead end jobs and relationships because they're familiar. Because you don't know who you are without those things. Because you don't know what you'd do without those things. Because you've been taught that this is the way. That this is the only path for you.
Never have you been taught to go within. To listen to your innate wisdom, follow your truth, connect with your being.
You're ready to go within, to go after more. Even if you don't know what more means or looks like. You know what it feels like. You know there is more to this life. More joy, pleasure, desire. More passion and purpose. And you want that.
You're ready to lean into your next-level expansion, calibrate to your own energy, learn how to BE. It’s time to take small steps towards unblocking your energy. Start by identifying one thing you truly desire and take the first courageous step toward it.
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The Sigma
Your power comes from your being
Independent, elusive, mysterious.
Similar to the Alpha, Sigmas have a confident, “all eyes on me” energy that holds attention when they walk into a room.
But, they are also a bit of a shape-shifter in that they can fit into any social situation- content to rule the room but also content to sit back and let others lead when they feel it’s right or when they want to reserve their energy.
Sigmas do not follow the "rules" or trends, preferring to do what they want and keeping out of the boxes of society.
They embark on their own path, moving at their own pace, making bold moves and memories to last in the sands of time.
It's a lot but you've been working hard to make yourself the main character in your own story. To ditch societal norms, leave behind the fears and limiting beliefs; forgive yourself for past mistakes or for not taking opportunities that came your way.
You're ready for more.
But aren't 100% sure on how to get there, not 100% sure on what exactly it is you want- you just KNOW that you want more.
You are ready to let your fire roar. You know you have something powerful inside you, and you’re starting to understand how to let it blaze without fear of burning out.
You’ve worked through your doubts and are making bold moves toward your goals. Keep leaning into this energy and continue to harness it in ways that align with your heart’s desires.
Your next step? Focus on refining your direction to make sure your wildfire is going toward something that truly lights you up.
Sigma, I see you. I've been you.
Confused about where you "fit" in society. Told you're an extrovert? An introvert? Or you would be great for *this* and *that*...
All the while knowing deep in your heart that you don't belong in any of those boxes.
I see you. I've been you.
Ready and willing to make bold moves but scared to be outside of the "norm". "You should", "You need to"... "I don't understand", "That doesn't make sense"...
Meanwhile your soul is exploding, daring you to make waves.
Make waves dear Sigma, make waves.
I see you. I've been you. And I promise, the waves are the best part.
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The Phoenix
Burn, baby, Burn.
You’ve burned the bridges that you no longer walk across, set fire to the things that don’t serve you.
You’ve let the fires burn until they go out on their own, leaving nothing behind.
Now you’re surrounded by ash.. How beautiful is that?
You’ve burned it all to the ground and now it’s time to rebuild with intention, strength, and desire.
You’ve burned through the old, and now you’re in a space of transformation. You might be in the aftermath of a major life change, and while you’ve shed what no longer serves you, you’re wondering what comes next.
The fire you once feared is now your power, and you’re in the process of rebuilding. Focus on integrating your lessons and preparing for the next evolution. It’s time to rise again with even greater clarity and purpose.
When you're rocking in that chair, sharing the book of your life, you will be sharing experiences of luxury- whatever that looks like for you!
You have fully embraced who you are, stepped into your authentic Self, and live unapologetically. The stories you'll tell will be filled with adventure, passion, and truth.
Now the question is, what legacy are you leaving behind?
A legacy is how you want to be remembered. Ask yourself: How do I want to be remembered? What am I leaving behind for others to carry on?
This doesn't have to be a business or tea farm. This can be intangible things such as courage, desire and the pursuit of those desires. It can be the way you unapologetically lived your life for you that you spark in others. And it likely will be.
You exude luxury- whatever that looks like for you. You live to the fullest expression of your Being. You are the main character of your story.
Let the end of your story be the beacon.
The guiding light you need to walk a path filled with passion, desire, joy, peace, and luxury. Will you show up each and every day to live the story you want to tell?
You know there's more. And you want it. You've met your edge and are ready to go beyond it. Your legacy is bigger than you. It's time to calibrate beyond what you know, what you've experienced.
You've done a lot- healed, expanded, stepped into your personal power. The doing is hard work. But chances are you've outgrown it. The things we do and learn change but when you learn how to be there is a lot more spaciousness.
Within that spaciousness, you become YOU. You are powerful, brilliant. You have all the answers within. Your soul chose this. Logic and desire don't live on the same frequency. When all the whys are behind the desire, your edge will move you. Inspire you. Push you further into a new comfort zone- and inspire others to do the same.
A legacy.
Your story is the path others will walk with you. The pieces of you others will resonate with, will see themselves in. The parts of you that allow others to open themselves up to their own path to luxury. The path of one becomes the path of many.
When you allow yourself to become one with your being, you open up space for others to do the same.
This is the legacy.
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your journey is unfolding.
will you turn back, dive inward, or seek what lies beyond?
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